Do you feel like an imposter?
The average senior professional woman experiences 19 episodes of imposter syndrome in the first two years following a promotion and 4.2 per year in a role she’s acclimatized to. Actually, I made that up but it sounds reassuring, doesn’t it? Have you ever felt like an imposter? Believed you’re not really up to the role you’re in or the task that’s in front of you; that you’ve somehow bluffed your way so far or got lucky and then been wondering how you’ll cope when you’re exposed? No public admissions are needed from you but for what it’s worth I’ll hold my hand up to it.
If you’re curious to know some of my imposter stories, the next two paragraphs are for you. if not, skip on to four ways to get over imposter syndrome and the science behind it.
My imposter syndrome stories
Some years ago not long after I’d had my first child I got a call from a PR company saying their client had pinpointed me as the person they wanted to go on radio and talk about their market research into male and female dating habits. Me, talk about dating? Me, who’s never done radio before? Me, who doesn’t have a phd in sexual attraction? I said no of course and happily suggested a couple of other people instead. To check I’d done the right thing (my gut at this stage was feeling the fear and telling me I should have been doing it anyway) I then rang a good friend – a psychologist who’s done heaps of the media stuff – to check I’d done the right thing. ‘Whaaaaat?’ came the reply along with a series of friendly admonishments. So I decided to check-in with my husband. He said the same. I promptly got back on the blower and got in there. No further elaboration needed; you know what I’m going to say (it was all good). Since then I’ve done a ton of radio.
Time for another story? Last year off the back of some ‘superb’ training design work I did for an international bank (developing behaviour change workshop material to help bank managers up and down the UK create a greater customer-centric ethos in their branches) I got a call asking me to do some more. Well, I couldn’t possibly could I…I mean that was a one-off, a fluke. It wasn’t really that difficult – the client gave me so many good ideas to work with and this would be different: having to think it all up myself on completely different subject areas. No, you don’t want me, please take me down from the pedestal. However, this time I didn’t say all this aloud to the person requesting my time. Instead I took all that self-talk and worked out how what I’d done before did very much apply to this situation and how I could make it work. There was other rationalizing that went on too but the nub of it is that I’d moved my thinking along. That’s all any of us can ask of ourselves – to move things along, learn from what’s gone before, build and progress. Enough of my stories.
What the research says about imposter syndrome
Psychologists Shamala Kumar and Carolyn Jagacinski found in their research with male and female undergraduate students that women are significantly more likely than men to experience the phenomenon. What’s more – and this ties in with an interesting, if too long for the point she’s making, book by Carol Dweck called Mindset – the women in this study were more likely than men to believe that intelligence is a fixed attribute that doesn’t develop over time. Reading between the lines the link I make between these two findings is that women who experience imposter syndrome may be unfairly believing themselves inadequate for the jobs they are doing – or being asked to do – as 30, 40, 50-somethings because they use earlier reference points in their careers to judge whether they are fit for what they are doing now. [Whilst not quite the same thing I still catch myself at times playing dumb, asking naiive questions and baring too much of my thoughts and feelings as I did very early on in my career, and then wondering later why I behaved like that because it did me a disservice and portrayed me as something different and lesser to what I am now.]
4 Ways to overcome the imposter phenomenon
Reference recent experiences when judging capability
When you have an ‘I’m not up to this’ type stirring look for evidence that demonstrates why you are up to it. Imagine you are your publicist and drum up examples of recent experiences and successes (which may be small) that relate to the task or job you’re facing. If you’re running your own business being your own PR machine may be familiar territory.
Remember your capabilities are continually growing
When someone asks you to be involved or deliver something at work they see both the you that ‘has done’ (your past achievements) and the woman that ‘can do’ (future potential based on past performance). It’s OK not to be polished and practised in everything on your job spec (even if you’ve been doing the role a good few years). If you’re seeking a new role bear this in mind – if you were the recruiter, can you imagine the mistake that hiring someone who ticks every box would be? If a candidate can do everything standing on their head in hotpants there’s clearly going to be no stretch and challenge. So be bold, seek out a role that has lots of things you can demonstrate you can do and plenty that you haven’t got the evidence base for, yet.
Seek feedback on your capability
If you’re on LinkedIn you’ll no doubt be aware of the nifty widget that allows people in your network to endorse skills LinkedIn thinks you’re likely to posses. Looking at what other people see as your capabilities is an excellent way to challenge professional insecurities. Given it’s our fear of other people changing their minds about us that is at the heart of Imposter Syndrome, taking stock of those same people’s views on this platform can be tremendous smack in the face for self doubt. Beyond LinkedIn 360 degree feedback tools are a useful aid in the workplace.
Use yourself as your reference point
And finally, Kumar and Jagacinski’s work suggests both men and women who experience imposter syndrome are more likely to compare themselves to others. Benchmarking can be useful but not all the time. If you’ve delivered in the eyes of the people who matter in the roles you play in your life, you’ve delivered. It matters less if those deliveries or successes aren’t as grand, as quick or as easily gained as other people. The point is you can do it.
People ask you to do things on the basis of your potential as well as your past performance. Where peers are more practised or polished than you it doesn’t mean you can’t deliver using the capability you have. And you probably have more capability than you think – seek and you will find.
If this post has thrown up questions you’d like to explore do drop me a line or give me a call. If it’s made some more significant stirrings in your mind and you’d like some one to one time we can do that. Broad tactics and ideas can do so much and I’m sure you’ll appreciate that the beauty of one to one time is the ability to get very personal and come up with development action points that make a significant impact in your life.
This post was inspired by: Kumar, S. & Jagacinski, C.M. (2006). Imposters have goals too: The imposter phenomenon and its relationship to achievement goal theory. Personality and Individual Differences, 40, 147-157.