How not to crumble when colleagues criticise

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I expect you’ve experienced that sicky-lurching-stomach sensation that accompanies a colleague’s unexpected criticism or undermining of you or members of your team. Last year I asked readers of my ‘Flourishing Female’ monthly newsletter about situations/skills they’d like me to explore in 2014; how to ‘be assertive’ and ‘keep it together in the face of criticism’... Read More

How to focus on the ‘right’ (strategic/longer term) things

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Last year I invited you to reflect on your personal strengths, areas for development and something you struggle with that I could potentially address in my monthly Flourishing Female newsletters. ‘Time management’ was the single biggest theme for development and that’s where I’m starting this month. Specifically, how to prioritise the strategic stuff. Put another way, how... Read More

Goodness gratitude me

Gratitude

** This post first appeared as a ‘Flourishing Female’ column in January 2008. I’ve pulled it out of the archive following a conversation with a coachee about gratitude.** Had the women at the 4am opening of the Next sale not had enough of queuing, crammed car parks and overheating credit cards last month? Or had they simply not got round to making their ‘doing... Read More

Persevering Job Seekers (from the archive)

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**This post was first published 31/10/2011** This month as well as becoming very familiar with the inner workings of a high street bank and  J22-28 of the M25 (all in the name of client delight) I started to get to know a remarkable young woman called Victoria who has been searching for a job for 18 months. We met on BBC radio where we dissected the struggle for work many young... Read More

Personality at Work

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Nicky Dulieu (CEO of Hobbs) has called on women to be more authentic at work. Market research by her business found that one in three women prefer a male to a female boss because women ‘lack personality.’ I read it with a balanced view of humanity and thought ‘yes, yes, we must let our personality shine’ on the one hand and on the other, ‘oh no, that’ll be some poor... Read More

Psychologies September Issue

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A pleasure to collaborate again with journalist Elle Tucker on a piece entitled ‘The work less live more diet.’ Elle came to me asking for my views on how to achieve work-life balance to which I said I don’t believe in it and shared my thoughts on boundaries, appreciate inquiry and intuition. Elle lapped it up and so the ‘holisitic approach’ was added... Read More

Practise makes polished

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Under what circumstances do you practise or rehearse something you’ve got to ‘deliver’ at work? Perhaps part of your job involves pitching to win business and you prep for that or maybe there are times that you want to make a key point in a meeting, so you run through what you’re going to say and make sure it hits the right note? I’ve been reflecting on why something I... Read More

Flexing Your Assertiveness

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Had it not been for commitments in both our diairies last Friday afternoon, the impromptu call I had with a radio producer on the psychology of failure could have been a pleasingly long and philosophical one. (My musing this month isn’t on the well-trodden path of fear of failure though). She’d been talking to a marine who’s bemused by civvy street’s emotional... Read More

Do you feel like an imposter?

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The average senior professional woman experiences 19 episodes of imposter syndrome in the first two years following a promotion and 4.2 per year in a role she’s acclimatized to. Actually, I made that up but it sounds reassuring doesn’t it? Have you ever felt like an imposter? Believed you’re not really up to the role you’re in or the task that’s in front of you; that you’ve... Read More

January Revolutions v. Gradual Change

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Did you, like me, wake up to sunshine and blue skies on new year’s day and fleetingly entertain the idea of new year’s revolutions? That bold, life-giving copper coin has a way of filling us with hope, optimism, possibility and on January 1st has the extra power of instilling in us the belief we can make radical changes to our behavior with ease. In this month’s FF I’m... Read More